Unapologetic Rabble-Rousers: An Exploration of Leadership

111: If It Costs You Your Peace; It's Too Expensive

"If it costs you your peace, it’s too damn expensive." Your body knows you’re drowning before your brain does. Are you clenching your jaw, replaying conversations for 122 hours, or saying "yes" to things that suck the life out of you just to avoid a little guilt? DocShellie and Carla Lewis are calling out the "normalized chaos" we’ve been taught to call dedication. It’s time to stop abandoning yourself.

110: You Cannot Keep Growing in a Life that Shrinks You

In this episode, Carla and DocShellie name the invisible boxes we live inside—roles, habits, relationships, expectations—and why staying “comfortable” often costs us our capacity. From over-functioning and people-pleasing to guilt, fear, and false safety, they challenge listeners to examine where they’ve outgrown their environment and what it really takes to step into a bigger room.

109: Your Growth Doesn't Need a Megaphone

What if wanting something different didn’t require a press release?

This episode takes on one of our most ingrained habits: announcing change before we’ve lived it. From weight loss journeys to career pivots to dramatic social media exits, Carla and DocShellie break down why we broadcast change, what we’re really seeking when we do, and how quiet shifts can be the most honest ones. If you’ve ever felt pressure to justify your evolution — or stay in something you’ve outgrown — this conversation will feel uncomfortably familiar in the best way.

108: Permission to Change. Without Explaining Yourself

You don’t have to be who you were last year. Or yesterday. Or five minutes ago.

In this conversation, we’re talking about permission—not the kind you ask for, but the kind you give yourself. Permission to change your mind. Your pace. Your priorities. Permission to stop performing a version of yourself that once kept you safe but now keeps you small. We dig into identity, nervous systems, old survival tactics, and the quiet ways we outgrow our own lives. No big announcements required. No justification necessary. Just honesty, awareness, and the courage to listen when something inside you says, this doesn’t fit anymore.

107: Life Math: The Radical Act of Subtraction

What if the most powerful thing you could do for
yourself right now… is take something off your
plate?

In this episode, Carla and DocShellie challenge
the idea that growth equals more—more goals,
more commitments, more proving. Instead, they
explore subtraction as a bold, necessary, and
deeply human form of self-care. Expect laughs,
truth bombs, and one sentence you’ll want to try
on immediately: “I am no longer available for
what drains me.”

106: Don't Fix What Isn't Broken

What if the problem isn’t that you need a new you……but that you’ve been hiding the real one?

In this episode, Carla and DocShellie blow up the New Year reinvention myth...calling out glow-ups, boss-ups, and “fix yourself” culture for what it really is: the world’s expectations in a prettier font. If you’re tired of proving, shrinking, and performing, this conversation is your permission slip to stop fixing what was never broken.

105: Your "No" Doesn't Need a Backstory

Stop downloading "disclaimer policies" for your life. Do you find yourself offering 17 different versions of why you said "no" just to avoid being judged?

DocShellie and Carla Lewis are calling out the "approval addiction" that turns simple boundaries into endless negotiations.

In this episode, they reveal why over-explaining actually invites judgment rather than preventing it, and how fawning (abandoning yourself for someone else’s comfort) is keeping you small. It’s time to learn why your "no" doesn’t need a backstory and how silence can be your ultimate power move.

104: Unlearning Politeness as Survival

Nice isn’t kind.
Nice keeps you quiet.
Nice keeps you invisible.

In this episode, Carla Lewis and DocShellie call out politeness for what it often is: emotional crowd control. From “nice as emotional Febreze” to why conflict isn’t the problem (silence is) they break down how being agreeable can cost you your voice, your truth, and yourself. If you’ve ever apologized before speaking, softened your truth to keep the peace, or stayed quiet to feel safe… this one’s for you!